Archive for April, 2009

I just got back from a home schooling conference in Cincinnati.  It was great!  If you (or your wife) home school and you haven’t been to one, you’re really missing out.  It’s amazing to see what all of the options are for homeschooling:  curriculum, books, science projects, toys and gadgets, camps, and you name it!  Plus, there are a ton of great speakers on all different topics.  There’s everything from the basic how to use this particular curriculum to what’s a father’s role to worldview topics to how to play championship chess.  (We went to that one.  He had so many great tips and ideas I’d never heard of!)  You should really go.  Even if you don’t home school the topics are good, and you can go buy Real “toy” guns!  (We talked to one vendor a couple of years ago that couldn’t sell them in his store in New York but could at home school conventions.  You know, boys love guns!)  Anyway, I’m done talking about home schooling for now.  (If you’re interested, I could keep talking about it.  E-mail if you want to hear more.) 

Now about our fathers…

I want to talk about our own fathers at the next meeting.  You know he greatly affected who are today.  Good, bad, or absent.  He greatly affected who you are, how you see the world, and for our purposes, how you father your own children.  So before our next meeting on Saturday, April 25, take some time to think about your father.  Was he present in your life growning up?  Was he the tough disciplinarian or did he leave that to mom?  How about the too busy workaholic who was never home?  Or were you like me that had a pretty good dad who was involved in my life?  Whatever the case, he affected who you are today. 

I’ve been reading “Way of the Wild Heart” by John Eldredge.  It’s kind of a continuation of “Wild at Heart”, but it’s more about how God fathers us.  (In fact, it is being re-released in an edited form as “Fathered by God”.)  He talks about the stages of masculine development that God intended for boys and men to go through.  It not only spoke to me about how to raise my own sons but how I was raised.  We’ll talk more about that at the next meeting, but to get you started let me ask a couple of questions. 

  • Growing up, did you feel like the beloved son of your father?  How did he show or not show that to you? 
  • Were you allowed to take risks and go on adventures?  I’m thinking of when you were a teenager primarily but any time will do.  Were you allowed to be a little wild? 

Try to think about that this week.  We want to hear your stories.  We need to know each others’ stories so we can better encourage each other.  We will discuss this, and anything else that you want to discuss this week.  I don’t want to be “teaching” all the time; I want to fight for each other.  We’re in this together, remember.  Cooperate to graduate!


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